I see you.

Life’s hard, but so is math. At least it is for me. No, for real. Sometimes, it all doesn’t add up the way we think it should. You know what else doesn’t add up? Hurt. Disappointment. Deep pain. Loss.

“If only,” we say. If only things were different. If only they would change. But what if they don’t? What if we can’t fix it, control it, or glue it back together?

We all have things that don’t go according to plan. Things that are not working like we’d hoped. Parts of our life that feel out of rhythm, chaotic even. Expectations that have gone unmet, hidden pain we aren’t allowed to share, or ruts we are trying to get out of.

The truth is, pain is pain. We all have it. The things that got us here and the intensity of our pain vary greatly, but the process of healing is the same. Whether it’s a season or a life-long amputation we are learning to live with, we are all in process. And, we all have a choice.

What do we do when life doesn’t look like we envisioned it would and we can’t change it?

We change how we see it.

What if the very pain that set out to destroy us was the birthplace of awakening? What if we already have all we need, not to fix the pain, but to transform us in the midst of it?

If you’re anything like me, I believed beauty was just on the other side of where I was standing. But now I know it’s right where we are; we just have to train our eyes to see. You can, too. See, that is. Perhaps you just need a reminder or the time and space to cultivate this perspective.

I’ve had many guides over the years help me see. Two of the most significant guides are my children, Jayden (2006-2017) and Brooklyn (2009-2018), who passed away from a rare genetic disorder. Through unimaginable loss, God continues to use my circumstances and guides along the way to teach me how to slow down and pay attention to the beauty right in front of me, beauty birthed right in the center of my pain.

I am spending the rest of my life helping and holding space for people to see from this vantage point. Through writing, speaking, teaching, yoga instruction, and one on one spiritual direction, I love to bring comfort, hope, and inspiration to anyone who lets me walk next to them for a bit on the journey. Because as Ram Dass said, “we are all just walking one another home.”

There is a truth about going from type A to plan B: it invites us to embrace our limitations and the untidy parts of our stories. That requires work. Lots of surrender, vulnerability, laughter, and tears. It’s the only equation that adds up. Only then are we able to be captivated by what God is doing in our life, instead of being held captive by it.

There is beauty right where you are. Walk with me scared. Come broken like the rest of us and watch God transform your pain into something beautiful. Watch Him redeem suffering, bring purpose to your pain, and show you things you could never see without it.

Take the first step. Let’s stay connected.

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Stefanie Boyce is a national speaker, teacher, yoga instructor, and author of two Bible studies designed to help participants create space to be with God and have deep conversations about what they are learning. She is best known for her perspective when it comes to finding beauty in difficult circumstances. 

In 2009, Stefanie and her husband got the news no parent wants to hear. Not one, but two of their children were diagnosed with a rare, genetic disorder, Sanfilippo Syndrome. Children progress until about the age of three, then slowly lose the ability to walk, talk, feed themselves, and eventually pass away. There is no treatment. No cure. 

Three years later, knowing the risks associated with having another child, they welcomed their daughter, Elliotte, and began a new part of the journey navigating typical and terminal, simultaneously. 

In November of 2017, Jayden (11) went home to be with the Lord and just eight months later, their daughter, Brooklyn (9) did too. Committed to thriving, not just surviving, the Boyce’s continue to navigate difficult new normals, always trusting God to reveal the beauty in the midst of such devastation.

In Stefanie’s honest, real life approach that people have come to love, audiences have found encouragement, inspiration, and renewed hope. She speaks on a number of topics offering a redemptive perspective on suffering. Through creative teaching, Stefanie uses everyday items and stories to highlight God’s truth.

In 2019, Stefanie launched her business, The Inner Sanctuary, hosting workshops, retreats, and private consultation designed to help people create space to be with Jesus, fusing the mind-body-spirit connection and blending her passions for spiritual direction and yoga.

In addition to speaking around the country, her work has been featured in the book, Don’t Do This, The Perennial Gen blog, and has a number of pieces featured on The Mighty, a digital health community with over 2 million followers. She has been a guest on Melissa Radke’s Podcast, Ordinary People, Ordinary Things, and is currently working on her first book. She also serves as a parent liaison with the JourneyCare pediatric hospice team, getting to sit with other families that are walking a similar journey. It’s one of her most rewarding roles to date.

Stefanie enjoys connecting and holding space for people to grow ever closer to Jesus- whether that is one on one through private spiritual direction or yoga, teaching, facilitating or keynoting events large and small. She is a wife, forever a mother of three, and dreams of a day she can have a little farmhouse with an old truck to call her own. 

Connect with Stefanie, invite her to speak, read her blog, and find her on Facebook and Instagram.


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Stefanie is best known for speaking about seeing life from a fresh perspective, whatever your circumstances, but can work with your specific topic or group. Just let us know what you are thinking when completing the form below. Thank you for considering Stefanie for your next event.


Possible Speaking Topics

What people are saying about Stefanie….

NOW BOOKING 2019-2020!!


Chapel leadership wives’ getaway
Mundelein, IL

Immanuel Church MOPS Next
Gurnee, IL

SWORDGIRL conference (follow link to register)
hosted by Torch of Faith Church
Grayslake, IL

Faith Church Beecher Moms of Littles
Dyer, IN

Parent Panel Discussion                                                                                                                                with the Greater Illinois Pediatric Palliative Care Coalition Child Loss Coalition                                                   Lurie Children’s Hospital
Chicago, IL

MADE FOR THIS day workshop (follow link to register)
Chicago, IL

Lakeland Evangelical Free Church Women’s Retreat 
Williams Bay, WI



“Stefanie wowed us with her clear teaching, poignant testimony and true humility. The response has been overwhelming, with stories of changed hearts and lives. Get her.”

Kate B.-Women’s Ministry Director

“Stefanie is an amazing speaker. Our group has had her speak more than once. We love her energy, testimony, and her ability to share her heart. She does a great job of tying everything together and making it relateable to each different woman she speaks with.”

Bonnie J.-MOPS Coordinatorw

“Stefanie was a fantastic speaker at our youth group retreat. She was fun. She was engaging. She was challenging. She helped us dive into the deep end as a group. Students have talked about her non-stop since the retreat was over. Her talks come up in small group discussions to this day. Stefanie is great at coming in and helping YOU do what YOU feel you need… she wants the group to better than how she found it. She wants to help you take the ball down the field in your ministry. I highly recommend her as a speaker. Stefanie has a amazing story and amazing insight into the Christian faith, and more people need to hear her!”

Jonathan Hobbs-Director of Youth Ministries

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To inquire about Stefanie’s schedule, fees, and availability to speak, please visit her speaking page to complete the request form. Please allow 24 hours to respond.

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